The music stopped... and then continued!

Big Dog RJ

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This is a special dedication to all music lovers, enthusiasts, audiophiles and fanatics;

I was wondering how to come up with a title on this one but it hit me once I got home.

Music definitely cleanses your soul and has healing powers!

It’s been an agonising past month with our little kitten ‘Truffles’. At 4pm today (May 8th) Truffles was put down at just 6 months old, due to a very rare infection referred to as FIP. Thanks to Cornel University, I was able to read as much as I could about this horrible virus that affects cats, mostly under the age of two years and fatal when it’s clinical. There are no known cases of survival to date. The symptoms were spot on; according to Cornel’s report, FIP affects cats many different ways and they all show different symptoms. Eventually the symptoms are similar towards death- extremely low weight, virtually skin and bones, loss of appetite, head lowered at all times, excessive teary eyes, coughing or sneezing blood and eventual collapse due to lack of red blood cells. On Thursday morning, after visiting three separate Vets, I ended up with the little fur ball at the Lort Smith Animal Hospital in Melbourne. After 4&1/2 hours of drip, various scans/x-rays, liver and blood tests, it was diagnosed that Truffles does have clinical FIP, and is in bad state. His eyes were also completely yellow, his tongue was yellow and he constantly felt hot and his entire respiratory system was blocked to the point where he sneezes blood, hence he was also diagnosed with Jaundice . After spending nearly 3 grand on these tests, we decided to put him down today based on all the vets arriving at the same conclusion.

Our little fellow actually outlasted many other cases, and continued to eat well but just couldn’t move as much as since the virus was spreading. When he first arrived in Jan, he would fly across the room, hang on curtains, do pole dances around the living room lamp, ate anything that moved, caught almost every fly or insect that would unwittingly enter the house. The most surprising of all was when he chewed up two Samsung phone chargers, one lap top power cord, and two mobile cable power cords. He also tried to get hold of one of my Nordost power cables but then realised that was a bit too stiff to chew on... he then looked straight up at the Martin Logan’s and thought of scaling these with his impressive wolverine looking claws but didn’t! He knew exactly what not to touch and absolutely loved music, most of all Jazz. Annoyed the fish in the tank numerous times to the point of having to spray eucalyptus all over the stand, and audio rack as this would keep the little bugger away, and after he would do all this crazy stuff, he’d look at you and say “so what?”

I have seen and been through a lot, to the point of having to identify mates’ bodies at the morgue because the parents were far too distraught to go in. Back in home town we had a 35 year bloody civil conflict that virtually destroyed the country and whatever wealth it had. Many mates of mine were in the forces and didn’t last, came home either in pieces or blown to bits. Whatever the case, I was able to muster the strength to move on and help these parents along the way but this little kitten just over-powered me to such an effect, I just couldn’t understand how or why. Until I checked the file and noticed that his birthday was the same as my mum’s (Oct 19th). Mum passed away when I was 11, and I never quite got over it. She suffered greatly, going through chemo, and various types of absurd medication that just destroyed her. Her last trip to Chicago somewhere around 83, for a special medical check up, ended with a broken neck in three separate places after slipping and falling on ice. Anyway, all I can remember is that pops kept going; he never looked down or sad although he was hurting inside. Mum being a jazz pianist always loved when we had jazz LP’s playing on pop’s humble TT rig, then after about a decade came the Apogee system. I realised that Mum loved us unconditionally. Just cared for us and wanted us to have the best wherever and when possible.

Pets don’t care at all if we arrive in a banana boat or a Ferrari. Live in a shoe box or a mansion. Wear a $10 suit or $10K suit or own a Wilson or a Bose. All they want is for us to be around, safe and keep them happy, and they will love you “unconditionally.” It was extremely hard to go through the process of putting the little fellow down. I have never broken down like that since 1984, it was as if I was reliving that day... After the procedure was over, whiles we drove back from the vet, I didn’t say a word. For the first time in history, I couldn’t sit down and listen to my music either. I just couldn’t power up the system since Thursday arvo.

Thanks to JC and Bob for their sentiments, and encouraging to “hang in there” - I definitely hung in there! Appreciated the few hours, minutes and seconds we had with Truffo cat. And tonight after finishing dinner, wifey suggested, “Let’s listen to Miles Davis and Sting!” I was wondering why those two? She pressured me to choose two albums; Miles Davis Kind of Blue and Sting’s Last Ship- dedicated to Truffles. Since after doing something naughty, like chewing wires, socks or shoe laces, he would look at you and say “so what?” and the first track on Kind of Blue was ‘So What!” Sting’s ‘Last Ship’ was definitely a fitting tribute to a fiery ball of energy! Wow, I just sat there and listened to both these entire albums, and repeated the first tracks as well.

Music definitely has a therapeutic way of connecting to your inner feelings/emotions, and it can’t get any better than this. So as the title states, the music stopped, and then continued... So cheers to our loved ones, pets hairy and fur balls, to all those who show unconditional love, I sincerely think they do deserve better, after all there really is no better way to enjoy your music.
I am sure music has touched all of us here in various forms, for better or worse, through the hardest times, family grievances and loss of loved ones, I will always remember one thing- appreciate the music in whatever form it comes, for as along as we are able to enjoy it.

Take care all, RJ
 

JayR

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Sincere condolences. Our thoughts are with your family. We feel our lives are not complete without our pets. Thanks for sharing.
 

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..thanks for the confirmation RJ...pets are THE best therapy we have followed closely by music. We are on our third pair of litter mate kitties, all brothers and sisters and like you have suffered greatly when the unavoidable occurs. Again thanks for sharing such a moving testimony..
 

Big Dog RJ

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Thank you all for the sentiments gentlemen, I really didn't expect any replies, other than just a sigh of relief...

The little fellow had such a profound affect not only on myself but all of us, especially my wife. Last nights' session with Miles Davis and Sting certainly helped, and this arvo I managed to get the TT rig back up with a few LP's from Adel and Norah Jones, Day Break. Whatever form I now listen to, I seem to listen with far more passion and meaning, and this sort of experience I have not felt before.

On a positive note! I managed to secure a new project and will be starting tomorrow, based in the south east suburbs. This is a big change for me, and specially with the house being constructed, certainly helps a great deal in managing finances. As far as the audio is concerned, I have decided to stop the upgrades altogether, as I feel there is no point in achieving anything better, since it has reached a particular point of the greatest satisfaction for me, as well as for others (who weren't so involved at the beginning).

That incident has certainly changed my life, and I appreciate the simpler things now more than ever. I see and view aspects totally differently with a sense of meaningful insight and deep rationale. I also seem to be far less aggressive to irritated customers and manage conflict resolution more easily, without getting stressed at all. I guess pets and music do have a profound affect towards passion and unconditional love. I intend to remain this way.

Cheers to all, and thanks for sharing your experiences. Looking forward to a new start tomorrow with the retail team!
Best to all, big woof RJ
 

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I just finished reading your post. A good friend, a pianist, the wife of a good friend just lost her baby, not even one week old, a little boy.
...Complications...the little guy came up only twenty-six week...prematurely.
We're all going to rest him in peace under the big oak tree.

We love our pets and children with all our heart; losing one of them is like the music stopping, we take the time for silence in solace.

Condolences RJ

From the heart of life,
Bob
 

Big Dog RJ

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That's terrible to hear Bob. Especially losing a child at that stage. The mum will have a very tough time ahead, let alone other loved ones around. I truly hope she will be able to get through one day at a time. Close support is what's needed.
The music will definitely stop, for a while at least but it will definitely heal...
If there are any dedications that we could play, perhaps something that they enjoyed listening to, please do let us know.
Sharing such experiences through music not only heals and cleanses but also revives!
Take care, RJ
 

NorthStar

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I got correction this morning; the baby boy came out (through a cesarean) after only twenty-four weeks (not 26, I was sure it was 26).
And he survived only couple, less than three days.

She's home today, with her husband who took a week off (he works up North, shifts of 3/1 - weeks).

She likes classical music; next time I see her I'll ask her which special recordings she likes. She plays classical piano, as I already mentioned.
Some of my best friends are . . . music players, painters, writers, poets, and pets.

Among artists we'll give her all the best support.

* After reading your post and understanding deeply you and your wife's sorrow, I felt compelled to share this very recent event next door to me.
It is the human side of us; our heart, our spirit, our life, our music's appreciation.

Thank you for writing your human words in this first post of this thread; it's important, very.
 

Big Dog RJ

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Okay Classical, that's certainly very powerful and definitely emotionally involving.
My pops had a great collection, after migrating to Aus, I don't have a single set of classical music. However, there is a music store in Melb's cbd area, called Thomas music and they specialise in classical. The store is just across town from where we are, so easy access.

Once you let me know what music she likes, I will definitely go there and purchase a CD/ sacd.
It's high time I actually started a small classical collection.

Not a problem at all Bob, just let us know when ready. Also, please do check if she likes anything from perhaps, Simon & Garfunkle, Nat King Cole or similar. Now that I have readily available.

Take care mate, looking forward to hearing from you. RJ
 

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You know something RJ. There comes a time in ones life where there is a paradigm shift. The things you thought that mattered most, really don't. Material things mean less and less. Your priorities change and you start putting more of your effort into things that mean the most. You really start to cherish things that money can't buy... like time.. love from a pet or spouse.. and things that bring pleasure to the people around you.
The past year has been that for me. Like you, I lost a pet a few weeks ago. Never though I would have the reaction that I did when he passed. I also almost lost my life last year in a bad motorcycle accident. I've started thinking more about mortality and what I want out of life. My attitude has changed.
Things like losing a pet or spouse change people. Some things start to take on a whole new meaning. Just remember, we do feel your pain .... and happiness... the music does start again, and it's beautiful.
 

Big Dog RJ

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Nice one Bruce, and spot on!

Yes, agreed a paradigm shift has happened in my life no doubt! Of course thanks to many members on this forum, I was able to get rid of some pricey & unreliable gear I had. Eventually settling for a simpler system, which now gives me immense satisfaction. My wife always told me the same, and I never seemed to listen to her, until of course I learned the hard way...

When Truffles was gone, I wanted to reach out to this member forum, knowing that it was the music that brings us together, in whatever form that is. We have arguments, many don't see eye to eye, there are elaborate systems and simple ones... but one thing for sure is, we are all enjoying our music, and it is definitely a form of true therapy!

When the music stopped, I was totally broken down, couldn't lift a finger nor head to work for nearly a week. And then out of all people, the good wife tells me to get back into it, suggesting a few albums. So then I realised she was just as upset as I was, and this is what brought us back together as a core family. I appreciate that very deeply, and the sentiments from fellow members.

Thanks for all the support maties, that's a winner! I will definitely be back in full swing. My teams first day on our new project, last night, went quite well actually, and I managed to finish early for once! So now I'm looking forward to the next few months, I know things will eventually turn out for the better.
Cheers, RJ
 

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