Alright, let me rephrase: while room reflections may be needed, there should be no types of room reflection that unnecessarily mask acoustic information about the recorded venue. I assume you can agree with that.
I'm not sure this is even possible. We live in rooms, we are accustomed to their effects on sound and are not well-deceived by artificial ambiance. Most recordings sound better to us with room reflections and gain. But very artfully recorded live records, with very natural venue ambiance (it is not natural, but it sounds as if it is) on record do not benefit from the addition of uncontrolled, added room ambiance. Like everything else, it's all compromise. Some recordings sound better in very quiet rooms; most sound better in reasonably lively ones.
Depends on how you define 'sufffering'. I love that my system can reproduce natural hardness of sound (e.g., that heard from brass in all but the smoothest sounding venues). This hardness of course should not be confused with artificial harshness (which inferior digital is often guilty of), but even so, I would not say that it is a 'pleasant' sound. It's exciting to me nonetheless. In a similar way, if a shrill dissonance is what I hear live in a piece, and is part of the musical expression of the piece, I want that reproduced with full incisiveness in my system as well -- no smoothing over desired.
Those who belive thieir smooth, pleasant hifi is closer to the real thing have not been in a small room with a drum kit.
Tim