You are highlighting an important aspect - the importance of preamplifier-amplifier matching. Although I sometimes try mixing brands of preamplifiers and amplifiers, in the long term I always feel uneasy about the combination - something is missing from the full capabilities of any of the. For example, I have the feeling I have not listened to the Lamm M1.2R in best conditions until I manage to get a Lamm preamplifier to listen.
Although I like the ARC REF250 a lot - I have it now in my room - I feel it really asks for an ARC preamplfier to show its best.
You might try a Music First as well.