I have enjoyed the single source or single point speakers that I have heard (very few I admit).
Have you ever heard Museatex Melior One speakers made in the early 1990's? You might like them, hard to tell.
WBF thread from 2010 on Sanders speakers that you might enjoy reading that covered some of the ideas you have touched on.
https://www.whatsbestforum.com/threads/sanders-sound-systems-electrostatic.480/page-5#post-15416
As far as the M/L hybrids having "confused height" that is always a possiblity with room acoustics playing such a vital role.
I recently had to confront several room issues related to ceiling reflections, first and second side wall reflections. This is probably why I started a thread calling the 30 degree dispersion claim a LIE.
In short I was able to slay or at least mitigate the failings you described.
The different height of presentation is actually one of the things that I enjoy about M/L's because I've never heard live music coming from a point source.
I hear live music coming across a stage and across the room with perhaps multiple points in that matrix.
This multidimensional stage and vertical wavefront is what all panel speakers seem to get right in my opinion.
The only memory I have of single point sound source was when I myself was playing an instrument or someone beside me was.
From a distance one may be able to distinguish these two point sources, but the room amplification via floor, ceiling and two side walls contains the energy so that a plane of sound approaches the distant listener.
The plane may be convex (radial) the closer to the source, and may be one of the reasons a flat plane projection from a panel sounds more distant or deeper.
I wish my computer was working so I could scan a diagram of what I mean.
EDIT:
To my ears, sound/music stemming from a tiny point be it a conventional dynamic driver (all of which are small compared to the area of a panel speaker) or small diaphragm in the back of a horn will give away it's origin. It reveals it's place of origin by altering scale via their projection plane ever expanding in a horn or in the room in a radial manner.
If you want to feel like you are sitting in the middle of a great music hall, that radial wavefront is fairly flattened out by the time it gets to you.
The farther away, the larger the radius until it's perceivably flat to ears six inches apart on either side of a person's head.