Mike:
I have seen photos of your room and it is beautiful. And I'm sure it is sonically excellent as well. But I would also suspect it is not soncially PERFECT.
Headphones, with all of their many shortcomings, many that you noted, still have the ability to demonstrate the problems of every room if that is what you are listening for.
Not since the 1960's have I used headphone for serious listening but I do use them as an invaluable tool for improving my room.
agree that no room is perfect. mine is not either.
but.....the fact is that the ear-headphone interface is not any better than the best rooms....in fact likely worse. it's only that headphones do have the ability to be consistent and be purpose built to fully optimize their environment to minimize their issues. but not to eliminate them. and those issues still limit what they can do.
headphones can solve problems typically found in rooms, but...when those room problems are eliminated or heroically reduced (noise, overly damped, non-coherence in drivers, less than ideal set-up) then headphones are exposed as lacking. because the theoretical problems of headphones are more challenging than the theoretical problems of rooms. as a room approaches the ideal it leaves headphones behind.
headphones have an advantage over most rooms, but not all rooms.