Agreed, Mike.
Digital is more unforgiving. Many instances where I thought my system suffered from "digititis" (hardness, harshness) turned out to be just bad room acoustics.
In addition, a less than optimal presentation of digital in stereotypical ways rests prominently on even just moderate weaknesses in electronics and speakers. A system must be optimized in every way.
I was very surprised how much of a difference a great audiophile power cord (ZenWave Audio) instead of a standard cord made on my power amp in terms of believably silky presentation of orchestral massed violins vs a harder, flatter, stereotypically "digital" presentation of those strings. Granted, great power cords also on the DAC and preamp added to the improvements, but the first, and biggest, step forward was achieved on the *power amp*, of all components (where I performed the first power cord change).
My new speakers contributed to another large leap forward, presumably because of better tweeters, but also because of a better midrange.
The final result of all the changes in system, room and set-up is that on great recordings my digital can now reproduce orchestral violins with a natural silkiness and sweetness (if the music played warrants it) that well compares with what I have heard from great vinyl. This was completely unexpected to me; I did not assume that digital, and Redbook CD no less, could do this.
You obviously have, with great care, optimized your system and room acoustics for all sources (and I agree, better acoustics raise also vinyl to even greater heights). You thus have come to your personal conclusions based on a solid foundation of work.
My strong suspicion, however, is that the complaints of many about digital are based on a lack of optimization for the source, and thus stand on a far less firm foundation with respect to what could be possible in their systems and rooms.