Things get physical
Well, you've done all the preceding steps perfectly, and this guy just doesn't get it! He keeps coming! Or, things got much more aggressive very quickly and you didn't even get a chance to finish your finely-rehearsed routine! Whatever the reason, you'll have to act to protect yourself. Remember, if you have loved ones with you, you're also charged with attempting to protect them as well.
If you look at the photo I posted a few posts above, you'll see how close the opponent can get while you have the fence up, yet you're not touching him. By continually moving your hands and "waving him off" (without dropping your guard position), he loses interest in your hands as being a threat. He essentially "filters" them out as a primary combative threat. This is an extremely important concept! If you play the "act" correctly, he will still see you as submissive when he is this close. So, you're moving your hands around in front of his face and basically getting them so close that he couldn't block you if you decided to strike him. The action/reaction curve works in your favor here. The better your "Academy Awards moment", the greater the advantage if you need to strike.
Understanding that a vast majority of our membership are not trained strikers, let's take a very simple, nasty approach. I'll pose the question, "How many of you have ever been poked in the eye accidentally?" What if we made the eye-poke a dedicated offensive weapon that we use with extreme prejudice. (That's right, nobody will ever insult your choice of speakers again!) So, we are getting our "weapon" within inches of his eyes and he's making no attempt to guard against them. We've proven this tactic in thousands of trials. Note that this is not what happens when two parties agree to fight on equal terms, this is a different setting.
If you make your dominant hand into the shape of the letter "C" and open it a little, you'll have one of the finest weapons in martial arts. This slightly-bent cupped formation of your fingers, forming a "beak" shape at the tips of the four fingers, is ideal for attacking the eye of the attacker. You should NOT leave your fingers straight, as you'll "jam" them and cause injury to yourself! Before anyone throws up on their computer, eye pokes typically result in corneal abrasion, which is definitely non-lethal and leads to a 1-2 week recovery with an eye patch in most cases. Nothing I will post is inherently lethal. The reason I chose the eye attack is the ratio of power/effect and that even the most untrained individual is immediately aware of how to do this. We've all trained at this.... who hasn't opened a roll of toilet paper by inserting their thumb through the plastic wrap? If you already intrinsically understand how to perform a technique, most of the preliminary work is done.
Here's the formation of the hand, showing the potential application on a dummy target:
The strike is executed with a short whip-like motion, similar to a snake's strike. You can experiment with this by hanging a paper plate from a string (put the appropriate boss's or ex's picture on it if you wish) and trying the fingertip strike. Remember, you don't have to hit with your bodyweight like you would if you were punching. You can land an extremely effective blow like this while being held down on your back (we teach this in our rape-prevention modules). It doesn't take much practice to become passingly proficient. More practice puts you into "very dangerous" territory. With proper skill, the opponent who has been "set up" with the fence will not see the blow coming and be taken by shock when it lands.
Even if you miss (a possibility), the body's autonomic protective responses will engage to protect the eye from the threat. If you've ever stepped on a sharp object or touched a hot stove, you know the effect of autonomic response: it's an uncontrollable reflex that attempts to pull the affected area of the body away from the insult. Note that during the interval of time that the protective reflex is operating, the opponent is incapable of fighting back at you.
In situations where the "traveling" eye strike is not possible, there are many tactile methods of attacking the eyes. You may be held down, grabbed in a "bear hug", have the attacker in the back seat of your car, etc. where you cannot generate any striking force. The following photos demonstrate a few methods of using the head's landmarks to feel where the opponent's eye is located. We're all built basically the same, so this is not rocket science! Try these out gently on yourself:
1. Touch your ear with your fingertips, your thumb is perfectly measured to go into your eye. It works if you touch the ear with the thumb, too.
2. Touch your chin with your thumb and your fingers perfectly reach your eye.
3. Touch the hairline with your fingers and your thumb reaches your eye.
Now, visualize how you might have to do this to push an attacker off of you, away from you when pinned against the wall, reaching over your shoulder with him in the back seat of your car, etc. This is a very valuable low-maintenance tool with which you have been provided. I doubt that anyone reading this thread will ever forget the versatility of this weapon, and they carry two of them with them at all times!
Here's a few photos of the "landmark" eye strikes:
Finally, a technique that has been used in many movies, the "double":
The use of an eye attack is relatively low-motor-skill and extremely effective. It can buy you time to run away or to continue the fight by striking the opponent while he is reacting to the eye threat. It's beyond the scope of this thread to go into all the follow-up techniques, etc. The purpose here was to develop a seamless plan that begins with the friendly, genuine interest in being left alone by a stranger. By having a rehearsed plan that governs verbal exchange, movement, self-protection through the fence, and transitions smoothly to physical tactics at last resort, we don't leave much opportunity for the bad guy to take advantage of our naivety. This plan has kept thousands of folks safe during potentially-violent encounters, and allowed many to dominate encounters that actually became physical.
I'll be happy to answer questions. I hope this material gave the membership a better perspective on handling strangers and formed the beginning of self-confidence to that purpose.
Lee