I appreciate all of the comments. Some of them are even relevant to the OP . Those who had specific advice seemed to lean toward not heading down the vinyl path. I'm somewhat surprised that more didn't suggest R2R or have an opinion regarding its superiority over other forms of reproduction.
i met Steve Williams in 2003, and since then i had encouraged him to get into vinyl.....i even gave him an Lp as a hint. i felt that with such a wonderful system, he owed it to himself to hear what it could really do. then (i think) three years ago he saw that i had got into RTR tape with the Tape Project and we spoke about that. i think his attraction was the much lower expense to get into RTR tape and even better performance. the software was more expensive and harder to get; but for him it allowed him to 'scratch the itch' of ultimate performance without the major commitment of top level vinyl.
in your situation with the 'family' challenges and (as i recall) the 'city vibration' issues, i can see that tape could be a way to 'scratch the itch' wihtout jumping into vinyl.
PM me and we can connect if you'd like to talk in detail. there is a large tape culture in NYC that you can tap into.