Not offended and not surprised.
I have an old Radio Shack meter laying around somewhere. I have really never been interested in the db level but I found the thread fascinating so I checked with something I didn't need to get up out of my listening chair.
I know I don't listen very loud as many people that come to hear my system prefer it louder that I like. I will just leave the room and let them enjoy it louder at times.
Rarely do I crank it up past 90db, which is usually classic rock. The problem is that so many classic rock recordings sound like crap with a higher end system, and since I also have a ton of Led Zep bootlegs, well, let's just say that the louder a less than good album is played, the more it is painful to listen to. So I guess it is self-limiting, LOL!
I typically listen @ mid 80's average depending on the source material. I have digital SPL meter which is set to c weighting and "slow". It has a "fast" with a peak hold feature and it's not all that uncommon to see a 20db peak recorded. Just shows you how much power your speakers can swallow in fast transients that you don't judge subjectively as being objectionably loud.
My unconfirmed answer - 90-95 dB - louder after the 4th martini. "Confirmation" possibly not required - see below.
Over the years I've been a "good guesser" estimating "peak" SPL's on home audio systems.
WTH does that MEAN, Ghalt???
It MEANS, that, with relatively low dynamic range rock and R&B, I listen and second guess myself for a few minutes - then come out with a number. Then I turn on the once ubiquitous Radio Shack SPL meter - check the battery - flip the switches to "SLOW" and "C"
(slow needle ballistics, "C"-weighting)
and find that I'm usually within 1-2 dB of the needle at the top of it's swing - rarely off by 3db.
Alas, for some time my Rat Shack meter has been dead.
FWIW - I have recently "performed well" with a friend's less-vintage Rat Shack meter with an LED readout.