So you are good with room EQ, just not when it is implemented in the digital domain?
That would seem to be David's big hangup, for better or for worse, amid all the hubbub. I note, Nyal, that he made no response to your earlier suggestion of the Rives PARC or the Meyer Sound CP10, both of which are analog parametric EQs. That was an excellent post, by the way. Rives is, however, out of business. And, since he also has a concern about ease of use, I think he should avoid the parametric type that requires measurement and entry of the discrete filter parameters.
The fact of life, as we know, is that EQ devices are more difficult to implement cleanly, efficiently and cost effectively in analog, particularly without concurrent time domain issues. That is one compound reason EQ in general among consumers never took off in the analog era. So, the newer, digital DSP approach continues on the accendancy and analog EQ is dwindling to nothingness. Analog just ain't gonna make a comeback in this product category any time soon. Also, ease of use is generally maximized by the common automatic target curve calibration method built into many DSP EQ systems, as opposed to parametric.
A hybrid approach would seem to make the most sense for our friend David, since he seems to want to avoid digital in every way possible. The hybrid approach would entail one or more subwoofers using an analog crossover, then applying DSP EQ only to the sub channel below the xover. That might provide the best of both worlds, with zero digital "pollution" of the main stereo channels.
A fair number of subwoofers might already provide this, with the digital EQ built in for the sub channel, although that EQ capability is often stripped down relative to separate EQ packages that are independent of the sub. Care in selection must also be exercised because subs are increasingly using digital for the crossovers, as well, for many of the same reasons as digital EQ. My own view is that digital crossovers implemented in DSP are miles ahead of most analog crossovers, particulary in transparency in the mid frequencies above the xover. But, we want to be sure David is happy above all else.
Here is another product that also apparently navigates this treacherous digital/analog divide:
http://www.theabsolutesound.com/articles/dspeaker-anti-mode-8033-dsp-subwoofer-equalizer-tas-204/
My understanding is that Bob Harley, Editor of TAS, reported great results using this together with subs in his stereo setup, with which he played a great deal of analog sources material. The sub xover is analog.
There may be other devices to achieve this. Or, it can be done piecemeal with sub-components, such as the Wilson external analog subwoofer crossover plus one's choice of a DSP EQ system for the sub channels.