Peter, I believe you. I’m the same way. Every listening session is for my personal enjoyment. I do value my equipment as most components are unique, one of a kind, or custom built for me.
There lies the fallacy; thinking that cost correlates with performance. You have been around the block but I think that you have lived your audiophile life in the mainstream. I have experienced the more esoteric, underground and DIY/Custom/Bespoke factions of the hobby and can tell you and show you that the cutting edge of high-end audio is not with the “extremely expensive items” advertised in magazines, displayed at shows, or discussed here on this forum, but with the experts and explorers in the DIYAudio community. You would be surprised how many of today’s sweethearts in mainstream audio are simply monetizing ideas, concepts and circuits that originated in the DIYAudio community.The latest technologies and circuits designs are there and being discussed and progressed there. I own a great deal of these products and can tell you that in a number of cases there are no commercial equivalent sonically. This is how high-end audio was in the 70’s, 80’s and early 90’s before greed set in and took over the industry.