I don’t expect to have a relaxation response when I listen to those casual or background sources of music the way I do when I listen in a focused, dedicated way to a high-end system.
I have to be honest Ron - I feel a bit sorry for you. If you listen to an analog source that's not up to your standard do you also not relax? If you listen to a system which is, say, $1000 total source to speakers + amp, are you not relaxed? For me, as an amateur musician it all sounds fake, none of it sounds real and I've heard multi million $ systems. And because I recognize that I enjoy it all, satisfied that it's all a facsimile of the real thing. Music is a beautiful thing irrespective of the quality, music playback on a system where someone has taken efforts and care to produce higher quality sound is icing on the cake.
And for the record - I find cracks, pops, subsonic woofer shuffling, footfalls and inner - groove distortion annoying and a bit unsettling, but I can still relax and love it all especially with a great single malt in hand and friends around.
Happy listening!
Steve