I don’t think that the sound that you have presented with your own system makes your a credible arbiter; therefore I would trust my own assessment of the sound on video over your “in person, in the room reporting”. Sorry, but the level of lack of understanding that you have displayed & results that you have achieved with your own system does not allow me to trust your judgement of others’ systems. Sorry I have to be honest.
You often forget this is a subjective hobby. If the bright, aggressive, fatiguing sound I hear in your videos accurately reflects what you hear in your room, then we have different sonic preferences.