I thought that is what it was
. In the 1990s I inherited an R&D group in Reading (outside of London). Despite having lived in UK and spend a ton of time there I was not prepared to actually experience this side of British culture. Folks were so mean to each other! I mean we tease each other in US too but what went on as "normal" to our eyes was super harsh. I had to get used to that being the norm and not let it bother me but it is one of those cross-cultural things that throws you off easily. Because we both speak the same language (more or less
) there is a tendency to judge British culture as our own and in this regard, it is very different.
This makes it painful to read Ked's replies to you as they seem to me as very mean spirited and putting down with no provocation. Yours though is not that way. Which was also the case with great British guy who used to be my right-hand man in my last full-time job.
Anyway, sorry for the digression. Carry on.