It does become challenging, irrespective of the cost of a component when it involves large speakers. That's when it's helpful to have settled on a particular manufacturer, via store visits, and listened to the progression of their line over the years. In my case, that's been true for the Wilson lineup.Like you I have also demoed expensive (20K+) gear in my home. Not sure how I could tell if the gear is right for me without listening to it in my setup. Like you said it comes down to the right dealer and/or manufacturer.