The monitor.
Good evening, members of the WBF. Just a few thoughts on my mind this evening. Perhaps it may invoke a few thoughts of your own.
Do you ever stop to think who is on the other side of the monitor? Do you
always remember that it is a breathing human being? When you post in a community such as ours, do you consider how your words (Which reflect the image as well as reputation of the WBF, BTW) might be taken by others? Do you care? Well, you should.
When someone posts a question/statement that you or maybe even others may consider completely out of whack, rude or even circular in nature, does your own response add to the problem? Or, might you go out of our way to help turn a negative into a positive? As WBF members, we should. The What's Best Forum should include the what's best on constructive (not destructive) and polite, cordial posting. Does being right but humiliating/attacking/poking/saying the same thing over and over, being rude, argumentative, targeting someone personally and launching the arrows of war somehow magically prove to others that you are even more right?
Do you imagine that people are watching and thinking how smart you are?
Do you stop to think how that person on the other side of the monitor feels?
Do you ever stop to think what other members think about your actions as an educated adult posting in the style you do?
I have heard people relay that if someone posts something stupid, rude or circular in nature, they deserve whatever they get as a response. Seriously? Have you ever once considered that you have no clue what is going on in their lives? Perhaps they are completely alone in life and they’re just looking for some attention. Maybe our response can show them a better way through our own example....(hint). Quality and kindness over quantity will always benefit those involved within our community.
Have we considered that they may be extremely depressed and are acting out? Could your response make a difference, not just for the individual, but for the community as a whole? We don’t know what is going on in their lives, but as in any community, we know that right now, in this moment, we are all dealing with our own personal issues.
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Right now, someone is trying to deal with a loss of a loved one. Someone else may be dealing with extensive financial difficulties or has been burned so many times that they choose to hurt others before someone can hurt them. They may even be considering taking their own life. We simply don’t know.
One thing we know for sure, on the other side of the monitor is a human being.
Am I asking that you be “nice” to those who you honestly feel don’t deserve it?
Nope.
I am simply suggesting that you might kindly consider if your own response(s) helps or hurts the community as a whole. Perhaps you can make a difference in someone’s life today, just by responding in a manner that considers the aforementioned.......
Please allow me to share something with the members of the forum. I recently found this and thought some of you may enjoy it;
An old Cherokee told his grandson,
"My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all.
One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, love, peace, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth".
The boy thought about it and asked, "Grandfather, which wolf wins?".
The old man quietly replied, "The one you feed."
FWIW
Tom